tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054687761317646645.post6300481515325492626..comments2019-04-06T15:26:53.597-04:00Comments on The Culture Wars.: The Culture of Acknowledgment.m.a.http://www.blogger.com/profile/08662030747760941919noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054687761317646645.post-39939498592120972152008-04-13T18:22:00.000-04:002008-04-13T18:22:00.000-04:00jordanbaker beat me to it!!... it doesnt work..bec...jordanbaker beat me to it!!... it doesnt work..because its NOT truly what they want...even though many times...they themselves dont realize it...<BR/>xoxoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054687761317646645.post-90361252542138436502008-04-11T00:41:00.000-04:002008-04-11T00:41:00.000-04:00Vanity is normal. It is self-loathing that falls i...Vanity is normal. It is self-loathing that falls in the spectrum of abnormal.Dexter Colthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08029661219242000332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054687761317646645.post-70044781712971770682008-04-10T20:50:00.000-04:002008-04-10T20:50:00.000-04:00megarita, probably.claven, thanks! And I think tha...megarita, probably.<BR/><BR/>claven, thanks! And I think that I understand you.<BR/><BR/>pascal, I think the distinctions drawn between validation and acknowledgment.<BR/><BR/>alot, too true.<BR/><BR/>dexter colt, I am vain. :(<BR/><BR/>jean, you are right.<BR/><BR/>jordan baker, you're right too.<BR/><BR/>So many brilliant readers. Thank you all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054687761317646645.post-1353069163096879242008-04-10T07:44:00.000-04:002008-04-10T07:44:00.000-04:00Because it's never really "all" you want, no matte...Because it's never really "all" you want, no matter how much you insist that it is. It's only when you get it that you realize that it's only a mask for larger things.JordanBakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00642798132367491206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054687761317646645.post-49177488738222231792008-04-10T01:48:00.000-04:002008-04-10T01:48:00.000-04:00I think it's because we have to create real truth ...I think it's because we have to create real truth (acknowlegement-- knowing something that surpasses an individual's individual knowledge)while the bonds of illusion are still there. <BR/><BR/>When we break up, we throw out the illusion and call it that and affix it to the reality it was. If things didn't progress much, the illusion can sometimes recoagulate, (not too much reality there) but in the longer relationships, that ones which generate the deepest longing for that that kind of post--post-- acknowldgement--when they fall, they fall hard and the pieces can't pick themselves up again. just my take. so personal.finer thinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14468500237225318480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054687761317646645.post-41106376161444975602008-04-10T01:42:00.000-04:002008-04-10T01:42:00.000-04:00The need for acknowledgment is driven by vanity. I...The need for acknowledgment is driven by vanity. It is completely self-serving/preserving.Dexter Colthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08029661219242000332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054687761317646645.post-48404143646818697872008-04-10T00:34:00.000-04:002008-04-10T00:34:00.000-04:00Working from Megarita's and Pascal's comments, I t...Working from Megarita's and Pascal's comments, I think that when one wants acknowledgment, one wants acknowledgment that validates their own personal interpretation of their experiences in the matter. What they often get (with some degree of latitude for how well the people understand each other and the extent to which spite and sarcasm run wild) is acknowledgment rooted in the other person's experiences, a different interpretation of a shared history.a little of this, a little of that...https://www.blogger.com/profile/15228060374364296659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054687761317646645.post-15587841066121983372008-04-10T00:08:00.000-04:002008-04-10T00:08:00.000-04:00I think we tend to mix acknowledgment with validat...I think we tend to mix acknowledgment with validation. Validation is the face you see in the mirror before you switch the light on in the morning. Acknowledgment is the puffy eye and caked hair that blink back at you.<BR/><BR/>Somewhere between the two is truth and that nearly always causes us to flinch.<BR/><BR/>I know this doesn't address directly your question but, to tell the truth, I'm going to have to sleep on this one.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054687761317646645.post-81753187622224975312008-04-09T19:27:00.000-04:002008-04-09T19:27:00.000-04:00Phenomenal post!The tricky thing is that actions m...Phenomenal post!<BR/><BR/>The tricky thing is that actions matter far more than words for me. Actions of acknowledgement are hard to come by because they are ultimately about character. They require a lot more thought and emotion than a passive "I'm sorry." In my last go round I pre-emptively disallowed any future apology. A lack of character caused the situation, so I didn't want to entertain the verbal BS.<BR/><BR/>Acknowledgement doesn't resolve everything because the acknowledgement does not simply erase the action that caused the acknowledgement. Does that make any sense?Clavenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00246090203659922862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054687761317646645.post-39856491572001547482008-04-09T09:51:00.000-04:002008-04-09T09:51:00.000-04:00I think it's because closure is a myth. Acknowledg...I think it's because closure is a myth. Acknowledgment only really works, I reckon, when someone acknowledges that you're absolutely right. I don't mean that in a bad way. It's just that it doesn't feel good unless you're being validated, at least in my (admittedly selfish and narcissistic) experience.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com